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I know firsthand what it’s like to wade through the waiting.
The match that goes nowhere. The first date that ghosts you. The talking stage that never turns into commitment. The feeling that love seems to find everyone but you.
For years, I struggled to find purpose in my singleness. As a public-facing creator, I was often met with comments like, “You’re still single?” or “I can’t believe someone hasn’t scooped you up yet!” While usually well-intended, those words only amplified the question I was already asking myself: *Why am I still here?*
At times, gratitude felt impossible. How could I be grateful for a season I desperately wanted to end?
What I couldn't see then was that God was doing some of His deepest work in the waiting. He was refining me, healing me, teaching me, and preparing me for a future I couldn't yet understand.
Now, looking back, I can see that He never forgot my love story. In fact, He was writing it all along.
So if you find yourself in a season of waiting, I hope this encourages you: God has not forgotten you. And perhaps the most important question isn't, "When will I meet them?" but rather, "Who am I becoming while I wait?"
1. The moments I mistook for rejection that were actually redirection.
What felt like doors slamming in my face were often God gently guiding me away from what couldn't carry the weight of who I was becoming. At the time, it felt personal. Looking back, it was protection.
2. The guidance I eventually outgrew.
Not every voice is meant to journey with us forever. Some teachings served me well in one season, but wisdom is recognizing when a framework no longer aligns with where God is leading you. Growth sometimes looks like letting go with gratitude instead of resentment.
3. The furnace season.
It took me years to realize that refinement and suffering aren't always separate things. If we can't see God in the refining, we'll only experience it as pain. But often, the furnace is evidence of His kindness. The woman I was back then wouldn't have been prepared for the relationship God was preparing me for.
4. The relationships that taught me what loyalty actually means.
Not everyone can celebrate your wins, defend your name, or show up when it matters. Losing the wrong people revealed the rare beauty of the right ones. Sometimes God removes people not to punish us, but to clarify who is truly for us.
5. The version of me who was doing the best she could.
She wasn't perfect, but she was surviving with the tools she had. Her coping mechanisms eventually needed healing, but they carried her through. I'm grateful for her. She got me here. And because of her, I eventually learned to choose peace over panic, trust over control, and grounding over chaos.
6. Every detour that disrupted my plans.
None of them made sense while I was living them. But in hindsight, nearly every disruption was a disguised deliverance. God wasn't delaying my life—He was redirecting it toward alignment, authenticity, and something far better than the plans I'd made for myself.
7. Learning to stand on my own.
I spent nearly five years single. There were dates here and there, but my future husband was nowhere in sight. There was a significant portion of my twenties where I learned how to navigate life without relying on a partner.
At the time, I resisted it. I deeply desired companionship. I wanted someone beside me as I built my life. But God seemed far more interested in teaching me how to walk with Him first.
Looking back, so much of who I am today was forged during those years. The resilience, confidence, faith, and strength I carry didn't come from finding someone. They came from discovering that with God, I could do hard things. Singleness wasn't withholding—it was preparation.
8. The relationship I thought was "the one" but wasn't.
If you'd told me this relationship would one day land on my gratitude list, I wouldn't have believed you.
It took me years to process—not because I couldn't move on from the person, but because I couldn't move on from what I thought God had said.
That experience forced me to wrestle deeply with questions about God's will, free will, disappointment, and discernment. I came to realize that while God may invite us toward certain paths, people still have the freedom to choose. A relationship can be full of potential and still never become a marriage.
Whether I misunderstood parts of the journey or not, one truth remained: God was sovereign.
That relationship taught me to examine my own heart, recognize where desire had clouded discernment, and learn how to guard my heart without hardening it.
9. The hidden season.
There was a season in my late twenties when I felt invisible.
Ironically, my career was thriving. My content was reaching millions. My matchmaking business was growing. From the outside, life looked exciting.
But I was still single.
I watched engagement announcements, wedding photos, and relationship milestones pass by again and again. It wasn't envy. It was the quiet ache of wondering if I'd ever be chosen.
Then one day, my best friend said something I'll never forget:
"There is a difference between being unseen and being hidden by the hand of God."
That perspective changed everything.
Years later, having met the love of my life, I can finally see what I couldn't see then. God wasn't forgetting me. He was preserving me.
I needed that season.
I needed healing. I needed inner work. I needed to build a life I genuinely loved. I needed to start a business. And the man I would eventually meet needed his own preparation too.
The versions of us that existed back then weren't ready for each other. Hiddenness wasn't punishment. It was protection.
10. The discouragement that led me to pray for my future husband
Years ago, I received a PR package from an author who had written a journal and book called "Prayers for My Future Husband."
What struck me wasn't just the prayers themselves—it was the faith required to pray them.
So I began praying for a man I had never met.
At the time, it felt simple. Small, even.
But when I eventually met him, I began to see those prayers come alive in ways I never expected.
It reminded me that no prayer falls deaf on the ears of God.
What I couldn't see then was that while I was impatient, someone else needed intercession. While I was focused on my timeline, God was working on both sides of the story.
That's why I believe we have to zoom out.
If you were supposed to have met them already, you would have.
We are not operating on our timelines, but God's.
And in the moments discouragement creeps in, we have a choice. We can sit in our frustration—or we can get on our knees and pray.
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