Single During the Holidays

How Does it Feel to be Single During the Holidays?

• It feels LONELY, it also brings up COMPARISON, sometimes even depression.
• We would love for this to be the best single holiday season you have ever had. You have a head start, a great opportunity to prepare and really make this special instead of sucky!

How to find JOY and make space for GRIEF?

The Answer: COMBAT LONELINESS

Here are some myths about loneliness: You see you may go to a  MASSIVE sporting game with thousands of people-where you aren’t alone…. But you FEEL incredibly lonely. You can feel lonely at 2am, married, sleeping next to your spouse. You can also feel lonely as a single who has never dated. You can feel lonely after heartbreak or divorce. Loneliness comes in MANY shapes and sizes.

• Emotional loneliness - ”no one knows or understands my feelings, nor wants to hear them”
• Relational loneliness- ”no one knows the real me and accepts me”
• Missional loneliness- “my life has no meaning, i do not have a clear purpose”
• Spiritual loneliness- “i am cut off from God, i cannot hear HIM, see Him, feel HIM” or “i feel like HE has forgotten about me”
• Physical loneliness- “ i have no one to share the load or these life experiences with”
• Situational loneliness- “ i am being excluded or left out of events or situations… the pandemic “

To truly change and combat loneliness, we must know ourselves better (e.g. the specific root and kind of loneliness we are feeling), know the Father.

At the heart, the antidote to our loneliness is connecting to GOD vertically (relationship with the Trinity) and connecting to GOD horizontally (relationship with humans)

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